Dating for men with women which varies only in the physical characteristics are the usual or normal with guys. I am not denying this for myself. I usually attracted with women have a good body specifically with a good eyes, breast, a slim body and a long hair just like what a usual guys wants and in the past, if a girl had these characteristics, its enough to make them a girlfriend. And what is the end? Its all busted up because I am acting in a way that I am not trying to win the approval of that girl.
These days, as stated by Mark Manson in his book Models, success in relationship or for men in dating is having a a beautiful woman based on community standards as your girlfriend, in which we treated women as things. It is really the truth and we men are wired to this idea and this idea was also disagreed by Manson. He stated that a man’s success in this area is having the woman that a man really desires and not based on community standards and when we are talking about community standards, physical characteristics is not the only factor, values of women are also included
The main point is we, men, must stop this illusion because we are just wasting our time attracting girls that are really physical attracting but unaligned towards our own values. When I am talking about values, it is our principles, our beliefs, our ideas and our attitudes. Stop being a knight in a shining armor that believing that women can change for you, you are just endangering yourself and your values. You are endangering your future if you endangered your values and principles. I heard a principle that stated that one of the hardest decision in life is who you will marry.
So how we will determine a woman’s values? Friendship! Yeah, you might be thinking, “Friend-zoned” or “Dead-attraction”. I believe that attraction elapse only at first and love develops inside friendship in which that same women will accept you, who you are. You see attraction is really a choice not an urge, if you are really a man enough, you can control your reaction towards that “urge”. If you already know her values enough, make a decision if you will continually “attracted” to her.
This principle what really makes a man handsome because he sticks to what he believes and he is not changing his principle just for the sake of having a girl, instead, he let woman believes in his tested principle.
Do not settle for women who are just physically attracting but you also need a woman who have the same values as you. You deserve better!
Be a man of principle and e-motion (Energy in motion) as stated by Obet Cabrillas.